Trophy Wife
A Trophy Wife is:
A. A hunting memento one stuffs and mounts above the mantlepiece.
B. A shiny, hard-won thing that requires constant attention lest the silver fades.
C. The result of excess money and delusions of one's physical attractiveness.
The answer of course is:
D. Your divorce attorney's new boat.
By definition no-one ever marries their trophy wife first, a large oversight to be avoided if at all possible. Once a guy has made a few dollars, he often starts to believe in his own publicity, which is to say that he forgets his responsibilities to existing wife and family, and tries to remake himself in the mold of someone like Michael Douglas.
We all know where that path leads - plastic surgeries between endless rounds of golf.
So why do men with money, status and power seek to express themselves by marrying much younger and/or attractive women? Do they believe that they will lose twenty years by osmosis? Do trophy wives actually have the keys to the fountain of youth?
Maybe they do.
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So why do men with money, status and power seek to express themselves by marrying much younger and/or attractive women?
because they can, sugar! ;~D xoxox
It is all in status and how they look. What kind of man wants a fabulous brain in the woman on his arm when he can get the model!!
Indeed, Savannah. Because they can.
There must be a few men who want the fabulous brain aren't there EO? Surely. Surely?
not in my experience dear wombat. a former piece of arm candy, disqualified due to above avg IQ but missing the mercenary heart.
Oh, Anon, more information please.
Are you self-disqualified because you're smart, or man-disqualified because you're smart? By which I mean did you take yourself out of the Trophy Cabinet?
And did you enjoy being the arm candy?
Is it possible to be both intelligent, your own woman AND a TW?
Gosh, so many questions.
The questions....
1 - disqualification both - "relationship" ended when I disagreed with point of view and had the temerity to express my view one too many times. Looking back, how could we not have different views when there was 20 years between us? And self when I removed myself from the running when other arms saw there was game in play.
2 Did I enjoy being arm candy? There were some definite perks and good times. I was foolish (ie young) enough to believe it was a relationship, that I was more than a trophy. The realization that the only reason I was there was to reflect on him, and that I was immediately replaceable - not so fun.
3 I don't think you can be your own woman. To a degree in a relationship both parties subjugate themselves to each other. In relationships with powerful men, it is generally one way. It's a complicated relationship, but I've seen it work well. I guess it depends on what each party brings into it, much like any other relationship.
Back to the first question, I suppose it really was self disqualification - I was too stubborn to give in without the benefit of love. My checkbook has never forgiven me.
1.Ouch. Temerity. That's a strong word. No wonder it didn't pan out, your relationship. There is something to be said for keeping one's romantic attachments to plus or minus ten years.
2. I think this is the most telling information, when you imply that a relationship is different from being a trophy. TW status is somewhere more than girlfriend, but less than partner. is that fair? And how come women don't see this when they take on the trophy role?
3. Yep, very clearly put. That's the way I see relationships working too.
Thanks Anonymous, you've been immensely informative. I hope you'll stick around and keep commenting.
(Sorry about the bank balance!)
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