Charm is Over-rated
Observations of the qualities women choose in men:
~ charm is over-rated, as is persistence.
~ the ability to take charge and swift decision-making are useful abstract qualities.
~ height and dress sense are valuable physical assets.
~ sexual skill is of middling importance.
~ either youthfulness OR mature mastery are equal attractors.
~ being a kind of benign dictator works a treat.
~ uniforms, of a military bent, or a nice suit, make a difference.
Romantics like me don't stand a chance in front of this. A man who communicates, has a sense of humour and is self-deprecatory is SO underwater in the dating game, like so much by-catch.
Wherever did I get the idea that these things were valuable?
Bottoms Up, Survivors.
~ charm is over-rated, as is persistence.
~ the ability to take charge and swift decision-making are useful abstract qualities.
~ height and dress sense are valuable physical assets.
~ sexual skill is of middling importance.
~ either youthfulness OR mature mastery are equal attractors.
~ being a kind of benign dictator works a treat.
~ uniforms, of a military bent, or a nice suit, make a difference.
Romantics like me don't stand a chance in front of this. A man who communicates, has a sense of humour and is self-deprecatory is SO underwater in the dating game, like so much by-catch.
Wherever did I get the idea that these things were valuable?
Bottoms Up, Survivors.
7 comments:
Dear Mr Wombat
The qualities on your list of qualities that women seek in men, grow old really quickly -
persistence = stalker
charm = a quality most stalkers/borderline personalities/and abusive men have (true)
So chin up - there is hope for you yet :-)
Height - I have found that short men are much more everything, as far as personality goes - funnier/ sharper/ kinder and even more charming (in a good way)
After thinking I was after the above, and searching for them for years I ended up choosing nice, kind,sweet and funny(who would have thought that was a good Idea)
Lots of meaty material in your comment, Miss Arlene.
Would I be generalizing too much to say that women move with maturity from my list towards more important character traits?
Very interesting.
Now is not the time to be evaluating your self-esteem.
Arm yourself with over-confidence and get in there and chat up that lady!
Mr W
I would say that most do. Things that seem increasingly important when you are 20 have less weight at 30... and things that were unacceptable at 20 suddenly make scene at a later stage... in all areas of life, not just love...
Consider me suitably fortified, Nights-san.
The seasons roll on, like sands through the hourglass, Arlene.
I've heard that somewhere before, I'm certain...
Charm is not over-rated. Persistence can be annoying.
I can't stand people who can't make a decision, because I end up making it for them. Particularly when I'm hungry. Pick something from the menu already!
I need a man to be taller and bigger than me. It's a safety/security thing.
Knowing what to do helps. Eagerness to please and ability to learn also helps.
I am dating fine wine.
He is a powerful-ish man. At least, more powerful than me.
He wears nice suits.
He is still romantic (dinner, Jameson, etc.). We have great conversation because we are very open in our communication and have a similar sense of humour.
Fear not, Wombie. There is still hope.
Now I'm wondering why I didn't make the move to Hong Kong when I could, MJ.
I believe you're right: there is still hope.
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