Just One Thing
If - dear Lord, it's a big one, I know - I could imprint one thing into the brains of couples, it would be this:
Okay, TWO things.
One. Guys want to know their woman respects them. Corollary: the worst emotion you can have towards us is CONTEMPT.
Two. Most men are petrified of an angry woman. This wide-eyed primal reaction leads us to behave in really odd ways, viz: defensively when no defense is required, or guiltily when no guilt pertains. Yes, strange.
Here's the reality check: if you're a woman and you are contemptuous of your male partner for even the slightest sliver of time...it's over.
And if you're a guy, and you your woman behaves dismissively, it's over. Dude. Srsly.
One or other of you must walk.
Bottoms Up, Couplers.
7 comments:
First off.... yay, Wombie is back!!!
Good post. You have captured the feeling perfectly.
Bravo!!!
Here's to loving, happy and long relationships.
Nights!
Howdy!
Ditto.
And where have you been, Mister???
I agree with the post though. I can't think of how once contempt is there you would get rid of it. Lots of steps before contempt. So maybe contempt is just a proxy for the death knell of a relationship?
Well, Miss, that's a secret we'll need to talk about later.
However...you're on to something with the 'proxy for relationship death' thought. Makes sense to me.
Looking forward to catching up with your life.
Hey, welcome back! Missed ya! :-)
Funny thing: I misread this post at first; thought it said that the worst emotion a *guy* can have towards a woman is contempt. I thought "how true." So, I think it works in both directions. In fact, I remember reading an article years ago about observations of couples in the waiting room of a marriage counselor. Apparently, even laypeople could predict whose marriage would make it and who wouldn't: treating one's spouse with disrespect did in fact sound the death knell. So you're definitely onto something there!
Agreed.
Which is why I need a taller, bigger man, who is educated, intelligent, well-mannered, holds a decent job at least equivalent to mine, and makes more money than me. I know it sounds so old fashioned and terrible, but I find that I am too strong a woman to settle for someone who is not at least on an equal foothold. When I say this to other people, they think I'm a snob and ask me if I'd prefer a rich CEO who's a jackass instead of a janitor who is a gentleman. My answer would be neither, because I wouldn't respect the jackass, and I wouldn't respect the janitor as my equal life partner.
Nobody seems to get it!!!
(which also explains why I will forever be single because such men don't exist)
Miss you Wombie!
Thanks, Miss Licious, nice of you to take the time.
So the contempt thing works in both directions? I hadn't figured that, mainly because women seem to have many...needs in this area. A partner who respects them might be one of them though, I see that.
Yes, it's funny how transparent relationships are from the outside :-)
Mary Jane, you will NOT be single forever. This I predict with complete certainty.
I do sometimes worry about your choice in men...but then you have yet to walk any of them down the aisle.(Phew.)
Happy to see you back posting regularly too!
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