The Dating Distribution Curve - Wombatgram #22
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How to interpret the Dating Distribution Curve:
* Sequential date number shown on x-axis
* Total number of daters shown on y-axis
* Three peaks represent peaks of dating numbers
* Two troughs represent dips in dating numbers
* Successful negotiation of dips becomes progressively more difficult
* After date #10 you're beyond dating and onto some other status
Obviously, most people know by date #2 or #3 if there's a future with this person.
The dips exist to test whether you really should be together. Read more about The Dip here.
Other Wombatgrams here.
Bottoms Up, Long Lasters.
10 comments:
Too much math for me.
Really, Nitebyrd? Then I've failed.
:-(
I'm not great at reading graphs, but I get this one: There are cliffs after certain dates that people fall off of with greater frequency (though the graph looks like a cute caterpillar ambling along!).
But 10 dates, really? Can't a couple be dating indefinitely?
Oh, and date 2 or 3?? That seems inconsistent with the 18-month guideline....
Right! Miss L, that's exactly it!
Caterpillar is fine with me. The Dating Caterpillar :-)
Re: Ten Date Limit. Sure, dates can go on for a long time thereafter. Consider this a zoom-in on a much longer-term graph (larger caterpillar).
I figure that most dates (numerically and by memory) are dates 1 -> 4, with decreasing frequency thereafter. Who do you know who is on date 33?
Maybe that's a guide - we're in the initial dating phase when we both know what number we're on. When we forget, a different part of the caterpillar applies. Oooh, nice post idea there.
Now, as for the eighteen month guideline, that's the thorax of the caterpillar. Different criteria apply after date ten. Seriousness as to possible partnership is part of the equation.
Think of the first ten as the start of the beginning - but it's important enough that we should understand the architecture.
IMO.
Very interesting, and I generally agree. I don't think I've made it past date #6 with anyone since my divorce. (It wasn't really dating, with Farmer.)
The part I'm confused about is the idea that most people know by date 2 or 3 if there's a future with this person. I can definitely see knowing by then if there's not but I feel like it takes much, much longer to know if there is.
Future, yes. In my mind future is a conditional term. Sometimes relationship future horizons are long, some are short, and others are indeterminate.
It's a language limitation, I guess. Future, love, forever...they're all subject to interpretation. We need some new words to cover things like future meaning long-term emotional and domestic partnership.
Sometimes future means until next Saturday night, right?
Hmm, gotcha, I think. So, by date 2 or 3, we know if we want to see the person again?
I just realized there are 3 guys I've been on 6 dates with since my divorce: The Latin Non-Lover (probably deeply closeted); BDSM Guy (need I say more?); and Drummer. 6/6/6. I guess that's the big cliff for me. Maybe I'll get to lucky 7 with the next one!
Ah-hah! You're a real-life example of the (approx) six-date dip Miss L!
Relatively many fewer people get through the six/seven date dip, and even fewer the ten-date-dip. (Stands to reason IMO.)
Not that it will help with actually transiting the dip...that cannot be forced, but at least we know where we are situated date-geographically when things grind to a halt.
Grind. Heh.
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